Top turn offs in men…

I know I have been gone a long time and i will start blogging again more often (especially since i got yelled at by a few people) but I have to start with this b/c it’s been a work in progress.

I will give you some background of this list in saying that it all started when Kat and I were at dinner the other night and encountered a quite good looking server. Now, when I say good looking, I am not talking what most of the world calls “good looking”—polished, shaven, muscles, tan, blah blah, does nothing for me…

This was a slightly rugged man with dark almost shaved hair and facial hair of about the same length. Great smile. My friend obviously was a fan too because she is actually who took notice first. I agree that he’s good looking and we go on with dinner not thinking much of him (ok I might have watched him everywhere he went) until he walks back to check on us and I notice… strike one…

Carpenter jeans…

I know, I know, how shallow am I? But I call it like I see, and to me, that’s a strike.

Carpenter jeans are not cool…

Now I would never call off a relationship or simple not date a guy for this, but this is definitely not a good thing…

Kat agrees this is a NO GO but gives him half a point back insisting that he is at work and maybe doesn’t want grease on his favorite jeans… I agree giving him the benefit of the doubt. But, right after this he hands us our check and…strike 2…

His last name!

There is NO WAY I am carrying that around for the rest of my life…

Anyways, so the story goes, we spend the ride home in a discussion of turn offs and on’s, deal breakers and lame men…

SoOo I thought I might warn the men of the world and give them a heads up.

I asked some of my girlfriends to email me their top ten turn offs last week, many were repeats (showing there importance) so we ended up with a Top 17

These aren’t particularly in order but I tried to go from least important (which are just funny) to the MOST important (which get pretty serious).

Here goes…

17. Long fingernails… dip and chew… wife beaters…

16. More than two pieces of jewelry… especially man rings and gold chains!

15. Huge body covering tattoos…

14. Bad clothing: as mentioned, carpenter jeans (unless at work) would be a good example. Jorts (which are jean shorts) are also highly unacceptable, and

socks with sandals can be tolerated when running out to the car but should not be worn for any other reason…

13. Metrosexual was the only word we could think of to describe too much bathroom time…too many accessories, overly styled hair/hair gel, too much cologne or too into vain in general. We want you to take care of yourself and show us you care, but don’t take more time in the bathroom than we do.

12. Your friends… could be hazardous. We try not to but, yes, we judge you by your friends; ultimately, you are just like them and think/live the same way they do.

“lay down with dogs, rise up with flees”…So watch your (and their) dirty jokes, comments, sexual comments, hands and habits… it all comes back to

discretion: get some.

11. Dirty Talk… ew

10. Bad kisser- enough said.

9. Bad breath: which automatically means: bad kisser.

8. You’re slutty: i.e. you’ve made out with more than one of ours friends… or too many people in general, but its never too late to change your ways.

Since a lot of life can be online: we thought an honorable mention would be…

7. Your shirt off in facebook pictures… especially as your MAIN facebook pictures. I wish I could explain this to you but, if I have to, then there is no point. All it vanity advertising I don’t know… I’ll reverse the roles for you, it would be like a girl with a full body shot where you can tell she took the picture with self timer before she left the house because she thinks so looks sooo hott in that dress lol.
Men, seriously, would you really date her?

And—-picture after picture of you partying or taking shots… take a picture sober and grow up… (which brings us to #5)

Ok, now to the most important…

6. All those signs that you haven’t grown up: drinkers, smokers, partiers… You can have a drink without getting drunk ya know?

We find evidence of porn, drugs or paraphernalia in your house. You’re out.

5. Sexually aggressive.

4. You disrespect women: we had about 20 things under this category and that’s the only way to sum it up. It all came back to disrespect and man-sleezy-ness.

Some of the top include (probably because we have experienced): you talked to us like we are pets, cat calls, you have naked pictures in yours phone, you look at porn in any way shape or form (I just found out men pay for this!! Pay for fake sex… just. sick. ) play nude photo hunt (that’s mine!), make sexual comments or perverted jokes, touch anything of ours other than our hand.
this should be obvious! That is what I say as I write it, but it is not. It happens every day.

3. Smokers: which automatically means bad kissers and shows a lack of discipline and self control. To a women, this also normally makes us think you don’t care about your health/future… or at least enough to where you haven’t quit yet.

2. The wandering eye!!!! You look at other women when you are with us. (heck if we are in a serious relationship, you shouldn’t be looking without us either)

And the NUMBER ONE TURN OFF/DEAL BREAKER ABOVE ALL ELSE IS:

1. A liar.

“Broken promises.”

Letting me down.

“once I lose your trust, it’s really hard for me to get it back” -Jessie

“I love people that can do what they say and say what they do” –Me

“You don’t know me that well do you? I said I was going to do it. That means I will.” -Cole

Men, I will tell you like I have told many before, if you want to be with a person of great character… you are going to have to be one.
Do not expect to be with a loving woman if you are not a loving man. Insert any adjective there. trustworthy, pure, caring, godly, honest, etc…

Now from a Christian standpoint I read this list and say, this stuff is so obvious. Why is it even happening. I suppose these men have issues. These guys I just described need Jesus. They have no one to teach them love and purity, or no conscious…

These things (the serious ones) are pretty big signs that you don’t have your priorities in line.

Most women, especially Christians, want a man they can trust that will lead them to a happier healthier life.

We want a man who follows God… that will bring us closer to God. Technically and realistically a man of God wouldn’t be doing these things anyways.

The things in the bottom list are serious deal breakers and just kinda how we wean out the men from the boys at first glance.

~ by faithfullyours on July 23, 2008.